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Are Women Always Victims? The Need for Accountability in Female Narratives

For years, society has operated under an unspoken rule—women must be protected at all costs. While this protective instinct is understandable, at what point does protection turn into coddling? Are women always victims, or is it time to acknowledge that accountability should apply to everyone, regardless of gender?

Blake Lively: Playing the Abuse Card?

Blake Lively recently made headlines, accusing her It Ends With Us co-star, Justin Baldoni, of misconduct. The internet was quick to rally behind her, as it always does when a woman cries foul. But then, inconvenient details started emerging—like the fact that Lively invited Baldoni into her trailer while she was pumping, contradicting her claim that he barged in uninvited.

If the genders were reversed, would we view this situation differently? Would we have scrutinized Baldoni’s claims more thoroughly before rushing to support him? The era of blindly siding with women, simply because they are women, needs to end. If we claim we want true equality, then, that includes holding women accountable when they are dishonest, manipulative, or wrong.

Annie Idibia & The Selective Maturity Debate

Annie Idibia met 2Baba (then known as 2Face) when she was 15, and he was 24. Today, many are quick to label the relationship as one of manipulation, arguing that she was too young and impressionable to make informed decisions.

But here’s the contradiction—when it suits certain feminist narratives, we claim that women mature faster than men. We argue that a 15-year-old girl often has the emotional and mental maturity of a 20-year-old woman, making her just as capable of decision-making as her older male counterparts. If that’s the case, then why is Annie suddenly portrayed as a naive victim who didn’t know what she was doing?

To be clear, I’m not making assumptions about the details of their relationship. However, we must be consistent with our arguments. Either women mature faster and should be held accountable for their choices, or they don’t—and we need to stop pushing a narrative when it’s convenient for an argument.

Kanye West & Bianca Censori: Victim or Willing Participant?

Kanye West is no stranger to controversy, but his wife, Bianca Censori, has become a new target of online discourse. Many believe Kanye is forcing her into hypersexualized fashion choices, like her recent red carpet appearance in a sheer, nearly-naked dress.

While I don’t personally support that kind of dressing—especially coming from a man who has openly spoken about his Christian faith—it’s worth questioning whether Bianca is truly a victim. A simple internet search reveals older photos of her, long before she met Kanye, showing a consistent pattern of dressing provocatively.

So why do people assume Kanye must be forcing her into this? Why is it so hard to believe that she enjoys dressing this way and is making a conscious decision to do so? The truth is, women have the ability to make their own choices. Bianca is not a helpless little girl being dressed up against her will—she’s a grown woman making decisions that align with her personal style, just as she always has.

The Bigger Picture: Women, Choices, and Accountability

It’s time we stop treating women as if they are incapable of making decisions for themselves. Yes, abuse and manipulation exist, and those cases should always be taken seriously. But not every woman is a victim, and not every man is a villain.

If we remove accountability from women, we diminish their strength. True equality means recognizing that women, just like men, can make bad decisions, tell lies, manipulate situations, and be active participants in their own circumstances.

To young women, especially those growing up in the digital age: Do not be deceived by the “believe all women” narrative that modern feminism pushes. Blind support for women, even when they are in the wrong, does not empower you—it makes you reckless. Manipulating situations because you know the internet will side with you will not end well in the long run. Lies catch up with people. Truth will always surface, and when it does, those who abuse the trust of others lose all credibility.

Women of all ages should take accountability for their actions. If you make a mistake, own up to it. If you need help, seek it. But do not fall into the trap of blaming men—or other women—for every difficulty in your life. Playing the victim only keeps you weak. Growth comes from honesty, accountability, and the willingness to do better.

Real strength isn’t in getting away with bad behavior just because society protects you. It’s in standing tall, taking responsibility, and making better choices moving forward.

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